Thursday 27 March 2014

All About Being a Kerala Iyer







Heii guys i am back again after a short break…
Well got tied up with so many things and also as always laziness had itz effects on me again…

This time I thought i will write something about myself and some interesting things that has happened to me. I think everybody love to have a sneak peek into otherz life and so do I ;) As recently I discussed wit a friend of mine itz nice to watch otherz life from ur balcony .
This was written with pure intention of letting know people of how fun it is to be an iyer. And no offence meant.. I request everyone to take what i have written in the right spirit as i have written some in-order to bring in a pinch of humor.
So today, I thought I will pen down some factors which are typical of a Kerala iyer family...


To begin with I take absolute pleasure for being born into an iyer family. As a kid, of all what I loved the most was the marriage ceremonies of my cousins , which used to be so very colourful.. Two long days and hell lod of fun, where mammies sing songs like ‘ seethaa kalyana’ ‘ maalai maatrinal’ and many otherz.
I used to envy the bride and groom who used to have fun on the swing( uunjal) and also for playing wit garlands . But only now I know that its not childz play as u have to sit hours 2gthr b4 the holy fire or hoomakundam … but i think itz all worth it... ( and yeh I am next in the pipeline for marriage). Since a child i have dreamed of sitting on my appa's lap on my big day. 

Some things which are typical of a kerala brahmin house hold ....

Steel glass in which u get steaming decoction coffee
Hindu news paper
Thulasi Thara ( where u grow a thulsi plant and where u can find a small hut like structure, where u light the lamp)
Kola thara- where u draw beautiful kolamz- n yehh I belong to the new generaton of iyer gulz who can manage to draw a pullayar( ganapathy) kolam ;) . But from a kid ur grand maz( thaathi or paati ) or ur athaiz( ur dadz sisterz) or chithiz ( ur momz younger sisterz) or ur periammai’s ( momz elder sister) or some maami will be insisting you to learn to draw a kolam as itz a mandidatory criteria for marriage.
A pooja room which we call as swami room or swami muri.A Murugar or Ganapathy padam( photo) which will be hung in the front room.
Someone with the name Krishna but who will be known as kicha( my kichanna is no exception.
And yeah.. Dosa is our 'national food'. We can eat dosa 24 *7 and still eat more without hesitation.
Curd which is very much mandatory as we have curd along wit dosa, chapathi, idli and many other deadly combinations and yehhh some uurkai( pickle) how can I forget that. . And we can have a sumptuous meal by juz having curd rice and pickle.
A singer, dancer or some genius’ in the art field.

My house is no exception from all these. All my friends who had visited my house may know this better than me.

And when ever there is a get together in the family u get stuck with some mama,mami , ammanji , or oorupadi of ur relatives who will ask the most dangerous question… “ yenne therinjutho unaku? Nee raajuvode ponnu thane? ( do u recognize me? u r Raju’s daughter right?) and thatz one big embarrassing moment where u give the most stupid smile of urz.. and will be uttering like a reporter on tv.. mhmm a.. aaahhh…. Athuvandhuuu…. Until ur appa or amma comes to ur rescue.

And another thing which scares me while going for a get together is when out of the blue some one betrays you and say’s ‘ Gitavode ponnu nalla paaduva.. avale paada chollen’ ( Gita’s daughter sings really good.. ask her to sing).. thatz one moment when I used to really wish that I could go invisible. And even if u do sing , someone will correct your sruthi, thaalam and ragam which would lead u to end ur musical career ;) . But they do encourage u , as well as give u tips to improve... and whenever they meet u next time they are never stingy in showering u wit praises... Kudoz to all the elders...
hatz wht happens among relatives..


But among friends.. u face the most lovely as well as irritating moments….
When u just finish saying to them that u r an iyer they say “ ohh nee pattar aanale”(Oh..you are a pattar??)grrrr….. tht moment u feel like smashing them.. and also when u say u r a veggie ,next second comes the explanation that they hav a friend whoz an iyer who secretly eats meat but of course with due respects to culture as he removes his punool( the sacred thread) which is really offensive and then u feel like shouting at them that there are people like us who still respect and value our culture. Some have even gone to the extend of asking me whether I have a punool (l0l..). and the lovely moments are when they eagerly ask whether u really break the papads on ur partner’s head on your marriage day or whether the bride sits on her father’s lap at the time of marriage or when they ask us to invite them for ur marriage....and also when they ask recipes of vathakozhambu, maaladu.. etc.
And last but not the least about being a Kerala iyer.. u speak the strangest language.. which is a funny mixture of 80% Malayalam and 20% tamil ... like – ‘ naan ambalathuku poren’ ( I am going to temple) and many more. But I really am proud to be one. But some times u really have an identity crisis as of whether u r a mallu or tamilian. Still I have not sorted it out. But whatever it is I njoy and celebrate being one. We have so many beautiful customs and traditions which i think should be cherished and practiced..


Long live our traditions.... So guyz if ever u get a chance juz attend a wedding of ourz.. u wil know how fun it is...
Apo apramam pakalam… adutha blogile …… neku poka neram vandhachu ketaya...












75 comments:

  1. Nalla ezhuthiyirku nee..ur culture, ur family..good work renju.. :) keep goin..

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    1. Very well described... :-)

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    2. Zooperb Buddy... Keep Rocking.. :)

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    3. Very nicely put... Good work.. Keep going..

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    4. we could able to memorize the instances while go thru this article....
      Gud one...keep on writing....we need more....

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    5. Ennjoyed it ...keep writing...it made me hungry at places where u mentioned dosa , maladu etc. I guess most of us can relate to the veggie incident..

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    6. Well said ranju. Now i really understnd ur culture & all.. Maybe itz really fun... Maybe itz traditional.. Anyway itz interesting....

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    7. Dear Ranjani you would have missed one more thing is ghee and sugar...these things have become nostalgic moments since the system of flat has take over single house and your concepts....your article is very nice and this is a bear minumum expectations of a normal human in life... for quite some time i was seeing me in you...

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    2. Renjini good one. And one thing more, the friends (when we say that we are veggie) defnitely asks, appo enganeya sambarum morum mathram kayich.....venel kayicho njangal aarodum parayathiilla ketto....like that....(Am I correct)

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  3. Good One...Thanks I am also an Kerala Iyer....experiencing and experienced most of them....

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  4. FANTASIES is the spelling.anyway good article.can streamline better dear

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    1. thank u for the correction.. will change it...

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  5. Sriranjany, i don't know you but I have to appreciate your value of being a Palghat Iyer. keep it up. Nowadays people from this sect change their language and become "rendumgattaan" We have a mixture of culture from Kerala and eastern part of Tamilnadu, making it a very rich life style.The number of celebrations are more for us making frequent get together of family members resulting in stronger bond. We have a rich and sumptuous cuisine for stamping as Kerala Iyers.

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    1. thank u so much mam... yes mama we hav one of the beautiful cultures

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  6. very nicely written...enjoyed reading being a mallu pattar... keep writing ranjany.... all thebest

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  7. I am also an Kerala-Tamil Mix Iyer :D Very well written :D God Bless ! !

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  8. Well written...agree to all. But readibility with pink color and the highlights was difficult, wish it was simple readable minimal visual overload in reading.

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    1. will definitely change it akka... il make it readable... sorry for the trouble

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  9. Yes...I am also a PI. Most of the things happened with me. My daughter also talks exactly the way you have written about kerala iyers, though she is brought up in Delhi.

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    1. ohhh thtz so nice to hear that u could relate me to ur daughter... cnvy her my regds

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  10. Very nicely accounted , And the touch of pun is adding to the content. We will be looking forward to more blogs.. God Bless and Long live the iyer culture

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  11. I am also palghat iyer. We used talk Malayalam mix tamil at home. I am very much proud to be an palghat iyer. Actually u written well. Out tradition always nice.

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  12. renjuss... ur frndship gv a chance to knw smthng abt iyar family... thank u dr.. its so dffrnt in slang ,culture, food etc.. bt i always like ur custom... I really want c u in ur appa's lap on that day.... APRAT frm these all i really appreciate u bcz u come out of all laziness with ur Grt PEN... keep going on dr.... all the best..

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    1. thank u so much athiiiiiiiiiii..... :).....

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  13. its simply osum ....i dint know that u blog ..anyhow the confusion of bein a mallu or tamilian will bnever end at any cost ...catch me on shilpachandrasekheran@blogspot.com...keep in touch

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  14. romba nanna irukku...and very true..proud to one in this magnificent community called Tambrams..:-)..

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  15. Curd rice our Food is not complete with out Curd rice

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    1. yes... most yummiest food in the whole world

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  16. Well written piece... keep up the humor in future work as well!!!

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  17. good one appriciated . i feel its an added advantage that u know two more languages

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  18. Nicely written......Me too a Palghat Iyer....Experienced all the above stuff.....

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  19. Enjoyed reading this! :) I can relate to it very well. Hope to see more of your writing soon.

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    1. sure.. will try to come up with something interesting :).. need your support..

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  20. Very nice and intersting.... even though iam not a kerala ayyar... i can relate some of these stories to my life ,since i belong to kerala nomboodiri...!!
    Especially these two things....
    8. And yehh Dosa is our national food. We can eat dosa 24 *7 and still eat more without hesitation
    9. Curd which is very much mandatory as we have curd along wit dosa, chapathi, idli and many other deadly combinations (i cannot imagine eating dosa without curd..my deadly combinations = curd+ chutni+ chille etc etc...!!.)
    keep going..... nicely structured,......

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    2. thank u so much jinu.. happy that u could relate to this :)

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  21. This is just amazing, did really enjoyed this Iyer story from Ranjini. You know what Ranjini the best part is, one could easily visualise these things while they are reading it. I just want to say " Dwell on the beauty of these words, watch those words and see yourself running with them". Bravo Ranjini anxiously waiting for the next one.

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  22. thank u so much ronnie.. really happy to receive such a comment from old class mate...

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  23. dey dey, ival oru medakkthi da, avaloda appa kitte avaloda jathakatthi vnaguda, nambha kittanna vodu rendamtthu pillayandunukku parkorom
    suryanaraynan, paris also a kerala iyer

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  25. Real incidents...I too hav xperienced many of these incidents akkaaaaa!!!!
    Niceeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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  26. Superb! good one :) kalakungoo :)

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  27. Hi Shri
    It was great reading your blog. I am not Iyer but an Iyengar but most of what you have written we have exactly the same tradition, customs and what not. We just don't speak Tamil with Malayalam accent; that is all!! By the way, Malaylam was born about 800 years ago; before that it was called 'Cheran Thamizh' (also 'Malanaatu Thamizh'). Later on with combining Sanskrit, Malayalam was born.
    On the whole, it was delightful to read your blog.
    So we all are the same!!

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    1. thank u so much... almost iyer and iyengars have got almost same customs and traditions.... :)

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  28. First I would like to second yo passion on our culture & I felt so undulated with the way yo articulated it so epigrammatically. Perhaps it’s because I nava tried spending more time on reading this kinda blogs b4(S I do admit). And I wud really appreciate if each n evry1 from our community spend few mins in reading this kinda blogs n articles which shows us the practice of Hinduism and the way we value our culture.

    P.S : U wud be flabbergasted :P :P if I tel yo how I got to see yo blog. N yo knw wht??? This blog really killed my assumption … nywayz wish to c more frm yo. All d vry bst!!

    Regards.,
    Karthikeyan. S

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    1. thank u so very much karthikeyan.. that was really very inspiring ..... really overwhelmed....

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    1. hehe thank u sir... u are my inspiration behind my writing this blog....

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  30. Hi Ranjany I got to read thru ur blog buddy.. its really interesting and u r really kind of very interesting.. keep writing and keep rockin buddy.. :)

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  31. i am alway for palakkad IYER family ..

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